I know I stand in line until you think you have the time to spend an evening with me.

[enamoured]

So, I haven't read He's Just Not That Into You. I've seen the guy who wrote it on TV. I've heard about it. It's $16 at Target. I skimmed through it the other day, and the one that stuck out the most to me was stuck in the middle of one chapter... something like, "he's not into you if you're doing the persuing. Guys will always persue women when they like them, and if you're making moves, he's not interested", blah blah blah. It's probably true; most likely true. I have no idea; I suck at picking up when someone is interested in me or not. Like, a few years ago, I was at church for this conference thing and my mom told me on the way home that this one guy there was saying all these nice things to me, and that I should talk to him because "he likes you." I didn't exactly like him, but still. I am a complete moron when it comes to picking up on things like that. And I persue when I know that there's no prayer of a chance.

So, to make a long story short: I gave Dillon my number today. Which is two stupid moves in one, because A.) he is most likely not interested, and B.) giving him my number is no guarantee that he'll call. I should've asked for his.

But then, I also shouldn't be basing my thoughts on whether or not he is or isn't into me on a book.

What is wrong with me?

Comments

[willagurl.livejournal.com]

first, i LOVE your icon. can't wait for the LAWKI DVDs. woo!

second, my pal loki over at popgurls read this book and was seriously confused by it. she went around asking all her male friends whether or not certain things were true, and then she wrote an article about it. you can read it here: http://www.popgurls.com/article_show.php3?id=532. i'm a bad one for advice about these things, because i've been with the same boy forever, but some of the things in the book made me seriously squirmy!

[sara-says-grrr.livejournal.com]

Not to get you down or anything, but I think there is alot of truth to that.

I've noticed that the guys I openly lust after and seek their attention, generally want nothing to do with it.
Where as if I let a guy enjoy the chase a bit, or if I act aloof and tell him I have to call him back and never do,
they alwaaaays come back for more. haha.

[cattikins.livejournal.com]

Oh, that FUCKING BOOK. I read it. I hate it. After reading it, I was like "so, every guy ever isn't into me". Which was untrue. I hate relations with the opposite sex - it's all so confusing.

[confused11390.livejournal.com]

Giving him your number wasn't that bad of a move, it showed him your interested, while showing that your confident enough to do such a thing. At least if he calls you, you'll know he likes you.

self help books=poo face

[waderapspoorly.livejournal.com]

Don't believe that crap.

IT WAS WRITTEN BY A GUY WHO WAS A CONSULTANT ON SEX AND THE CITY. IT IS HIS OPINION.

So what does he know? Is he every guy? No, he is not.

If you want to give someone your phone number, do it! Be proactive girl. Don't let some asshole's book that made millions of women freak the hell out change your mind.

Also, self-help books like that rot your mind. See: Jones, Bridget, and every other chick lit hero ever written.

[http://users.livejournal.com/madeline__/]

I've seen that book around and have heard references to it. I always that it was a novel, not an informational book! hehe, I know, I'm a fool! :P
but that part about us pursuing them--that's not neccessarily true. my friend did this once, and he did come hither. it was a gradual process, of course, but eventually they'll come around. but, not all males are like that, though!
and hey, at least you had the courage to give him your phone number. :)

[ihatebreakfast.livejournal.com]

Pfft, there's nothing wrong with you! That's good that you gave him your number and if he doesn't choose to call you, he's clearly an idiot.

Fun with generalizations

[horosha.livejournal.com]

It's not about pursuing. Most guys dream of being pursued by a girl they like, and that's exactly it. If they don't like you already they won't respond to being pursued. And for the record, I mean pursued as in flirting/number exchanging, not actual pursuit. No sex responds well to being stalked.

So don't fret it. If he likes you he'll call you. If he doesn't, his loss. Either way it's better than sitting at home being single doing nothing about it.