we're just ordinary people; we don't know which way to go.

[enamoured]

I want to put this into print so that if/when the occasion comes around, I will not fall into the trap.

You know how you see couples who are practically conjoined when they're in public? They've got their arms around each other like if they let go the other person is going to float away or something, or they're holding hands insanely tight. They're usually the ones who coo, "I love you" "No, I love you more" in that stupidly sickening way. And usually, there is one party (usually female) who leaves nauseatingly cutsey messages on the other party's (usually male, since I'm referring to the super-mushy straight couples I see all the time) MySpace/Facebook account that usually include "I love you, baby!!!" or a dozen variants of that same message.

And they do this every time they log in.

If I ever meet someone who likes me and vice versa, I will not be that girl. I will not cling to him like my life depends on it. I don't think PDA is horrible, but I'm not going to be kissing and groping anyone in public just because I can or because one or both of us needs to be reassured of our love (or lust) for each other. I will not be the girlfriend who gives him a babyish nickname, who'd call him "Snugglebunny" or "Teddy Bear" at any given opportunity. And I sure as hell won't leave sappy Facebook messages for him.

Instead, I will be the girlfriend who will be playfully smacking him on the shoulder and laughing too loud at some stupid inside joke we share. I'll wrap an arm around his shoulder and we'll walk, but I don't need him to hold me up and he doesn't need me to do the same. I'd kiss him in public, but nothing more than casual pecks, because, well, anything more seems tacky to me. I'd probably give him a stupid nickname--like how I called John Blonde Bond; or call him "sweetie" in jest or when I'm mad at him. I'd leave witty, snarky messages for him in his profile, because I wouldn't need to remind him over and over that I adore him. My actions would speak for themselves.

I've fallen apart because of boys, but I wouldn't break down and go damn catatonic over one. Yeah, I get hung up and I mourn and pout and question my worthiness, but I'm not the type of girl who would lock herself up in a room and sob for a month straight (besides, crying in the dark late at night is more dramatic and emo, 'kay? And I can do emo like a pro). So I am not going to be the hyper-girlie girlfriend. I'm not going to freak if he wants to play basketball with his friends instead of going to a movie with me. I'm not gonna be mad at him for having interests that aren't me. I won't care if I don't get expensive presents because really, if a guy wants to win me over, all he needs to to is buy me something on my Amazon wish list (and that's mostly books and movies) or buy me a lifetime supply of blank, unlined journals and UniBall pens, and I would be his for forever.

So please, please, please, if I meet someone and like him and we actually hit it off, don't let me forget this. There was this line in this book I read that said, "I don't want to be anyone's honey, baby, sweetheart", and that fits my relationship ideas.

Comments

[library-of-sex.livejournal.com]

I want very badly to be someone's "honey, sweetheart, baby" though I don't care for the repeated "I love yous" all the livelong day. Your post sounds like something my sister would write, and I feel you on the entire thing because I don't wanna be a sickly sweet S.O., just wanna have a nice guy to hang out with and stuff!

[demonqueen666.livejournal.com]

Here here. I never really understood the appeal of being so "in love" with someone that all you ever do is spend time with them, hang all over them, coo about them and call them constantly. My first boyfriend started acting like I was the only thing in his life, and my feelings for him cooled like that. I have my own life, thanks. Why can't you have yours??

[thechosenboy.livejournal.com]

So basically I'm your dream guy because that's how I find all my girlfriends presents :|

[thechosenboy.livejournal.com]

OH PS LOOK WHO STARTED USING THEIR JOURNAL AFTER A YEAR. SURPRISE.

[supersyncspaz7.livejournal.com]

I JUST NOTICED! HI SEAN! :D

[thechosenboy.livejournal.com]

WHAT'S UP BABYCAKES?

[supersyncspaz7.livejournal.com]

I'm uploading crap!

[thechosenboy.livejournal.com]

A++ I need to pay for an account so I can upload more stuff onto LJ ._. Plus Account just doesn't cut it anymore.

[moirariordan.livejournal.com]

Yeah, you just described my ideal 'girlfriend persona', too. And I think it's a healthy view to take on things.

Word! :)

[earthguardian.livejournal.com]

it's weird, because i've never really seen this! mostly, i see the type of couples who either hold the tips of each other's fingers, or laced grips. i don't see much PDA, or hear people giving each other baby names. In fact, i thought all that was romantic comedy pop culture lies/propaganda!

its interesting to find out that these people actually exist.

personally, i wouldn't want someone talking to me as if i am fluent in gibberish but i don't think i'd mind the nick names of "sweetheart" or something that involves inside jokes. i dunno... i never put much thought into it. the only thing I DON'T want is a dysfunctional relationship. :3

[chrryblssmninja.livejournal.com]

you are so right. Those girls are just getting themselves a load of messed-up breakup in the future.

[brittuhknee.livejournal.com]

My nickname for Shane is Shane-o, lmao. Not too sickingly sweet! But I agree with you... some people are just too much!