this is an emo post.

[enamoured]

One reason why I am not particularly enjoying getting older: finding out that many of my friends/acquaintances from school are getting married/engaged. Part of me is all, "WAIIIIIIT WE'RE TOO YOUNG!" but then I remember I'm 23, and then I remember that I am strictly lacking in the relationship department.

Come to think of it, this is the reason why I tend to avoid Facebook so often. It seems like whenever I get unlazy enough to log in, I find out that someone else is engaged and/or married. My BFF from kindergarten through, oh, middle school is getting married in a year. She is the same girl who used to hang out on the swings on the playground with me and we used to tear through issues of Teen Beat looking for Backstreet Boys pictures.

I hate feeling like my life is in stasis while everyone else's is going along swimmingly. I don't want to grow up.

Comments

[drapette.livejournal.com]

I feel the exact same way. I'm 21, and people I knew in high school are getting engaged at a startling rate. That being said, a hefty portion of the ones who aren't getting married are having presumably unplanned babies, so at least I'm not part of that group.

I think part of the reason I find it so weird is because I feel experientially younger than a lot of my friends. I still live with my parents, I'm not even close to being done with school while a lot of my friends are approaching graduation, and I don't really know what I want to do. In a way, I feel like my adult life hasn't started yet, so the idea of binding myself to another person for the rest of that life is something I can barely conceive of.

(I just friended you, by the way. I'm McMexican on Snarkfest.)

[supersyncspaz7.livejournal.com]

Oh yeah, I definitely feel like I haven't started really being an adult yet. It's like the legality is still there but you feel like you're just playing at it, you know?

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[demonqueen666.livejournal.com]

Right there with you. 22, and I'm unemployed, directionless and single. Everyone else I know has at least a career choice, if not a job of some sort and/or an engagement ring. Ugh.

[siscokid98.livejournal.com]

I'M SOOOOO WITH YOU ON THIS! A majority of the people I went to high school, hell even college with, are getting married or having kids! And every time I hear or read about it, I think "already?" or "why? we're so young still". It's such a trip!

I'm 23 also, and while I just graduated in May I still feel like everyone's got their crap together but me. I'm not used to it and I don't like it very much! On one hand, I'm like "I'm only 23", but on the other, I'm thinking "I'M 23!!! If I don't have it together NOW, when is it ever gonna happen?!" Definitely a trip!

[tigge03.livejournal.com]

Just like everyone else that's responded to your post, I'm pretty much in the same boat.

When I was younger, I told myself I wanted to be married before my mom did. Which means I'd be married at 25. I'm 24, and don't even have a prospect of a boyfriend in sight (just a crush on the [probably married....the one time I don't check a cute guy's left hand, geez] police officer I met when my car got egged two weeks ago, haha). I may be done with college, but I'm still at home, and I'm unemployed, trying to get my crap together. I feel like crap about it, until I think of my oldest brother, who will be 30 next year, and he's moving home. And then I feel like I *almost* have my life together. Ha!

[cottleston-pie.livejournal.com]

I hate feeling like my life is in stasis while everyone else's is going along swimmingly. I don't want to grow up.

My sentiments exactly. Too many choices that I have to make all at once and it seems like whatever the choice, I'm still gonna end up sitting at home feeling like I'm not going anywhere. What can you do? I wish you luck.

I probably wouldn't consider getting married until I had done all the things I wanted to do with my life... unless my partner wanted to join me... which he doesn't. So, you know, even if you have a relationship, that's no guarantee of anything. I just want to feel like I've taken a step, any step, preferably in the right direction.

[la-petite-singe.livejournal.com]

I do NOT understand why people feel the need to get married so young. Why can't you just be together? Marriage is so antiquated anyway; people think it means solidifying your commitment, but the commitment should come way before the wedding, IMO. I just don't see how people that age are ready to permanently commit to one person (at least, most of them aren't), but they're locking themselves into this legal agreement and if they change as they grow and mature and want to separate, it's a huge, expensive, drawn-out, embarrassing hassle. I just don't understand it. You definitely shouldn't feel bad--not that all people who get married young are making a bad choice, but a lot are, and it's better that you know where you are and with what you feel comfortable, instead of pushing yourself into something serious before you're really ready. That shows maturity, IMO.

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[supersyncspaz7.livejournal.com]

For me, marriage is such a huge, huge threshold to cross, and I can't imagine doing it now, or before I graduated and had a job. My mom and dad were pretty much just starting college when they got married back in the day, and when I think about what I was like when I was that age, I'm all, "HOLY CRAP, I CAN'T IMAGINE GOING INTO SOMETHING LIKE THAT THEN." Hell, even now I can't imagine it! And I'd like to probably get married someday but right now it just boggles me, especially considering that all the people I know who are married are either still in school/just out of school. I just feel like I'd need more time to feel established and comfortable enough before doing that, I don't know.